Grief

It is never easy to lose a loved one. Whether it is a relative, a family pet or a beloved partner, the pain and sorrow of your loss can feel almost overbearing. Show your final respects by choosing a  cremation urn  that represents their time spent on Earth.  From classic ceramic pieces to themed antique styles, you can show how much you care by selecting a thoughtful cremation urn for his or her resting place.

Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss.

Grief is a loss being related to something that the individual can touch or measure, such as losing a spouse through death, while other types of loss are abstract, and relate to aspects of a person’s social interactions.

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Grieving process

Every step of the process is natural and healthy. It is only when a person gets stuck in one step for a long period of time that the grieving can become unhealthy, destructive and even dangerous. Going through the grieving process is not the same for everyone, but everyone does have a common goal; acceptance of the loss and to keep moving forward. This process is different for every person but can be understood in four or more stages, depending upon the theory that is being used. In the four step model there are:

Shock and Denial

Shock is the initial reaction to loss. Shock is the person’s emotional protection from being too suddenly overwhelmed by the loss.
The person may not yet be willing or able to believe what their mind knows to be true. This stage normally lasts two or three months.

Intense Concern

Intense concern often manifests by being unable to think of anything else. Even during daily tasks, thoughts of the loss keep
coming to mind.
Conversations with one at this stage always turn to the loss as well. This period may last from six months to a year.

Despair and Depression

Despair and depression is a long period of grief, the most painful and protracted stage for the griever (during which the person
gradually comes to terms with the reality of the loss). The process typically involves a wide range of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors.
Many behaviors may be irrational. Depression can include feelings of anger, guilt, sadness and anxiety.

Recovery
The goal of grieving is not the elimination of all the pain or the memories of the loss. In this stage, one shows a new interest in daily activities and begins to function normally day to day. The goal is to reorganize one’s life, so the loss is an important part of life rather than its center.
 

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Five identities of grievers

Berger identifies five ways of grieving, as exemplified by:

Nomads 
Nomads have not yet resolved their grief and do not seem to understand the loss that has affected their lives.

Memorialists 
This identity is committed to preserving the memory of the loved one that they have lost.

Normalizers 
This identity is committed to re-creating a sense of family and community.

Activists 
This identity focuses on helping other people who are dealing with the same disease or with the same
issues that caused their loved one's death.

Seekers 
This identity will adopt religious, philosophical, or spiritual beliefs to create meaning in their lives.
The Grieving Process and Five Idnetities of Grief is taken from From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

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Thinking about how you feel
Some people do not share their special place with others, which means you have to decide where the deceased is best remembered. You should think about where you and the family would like go to remember the person. Maybe there was a place that the two of you enjoyed going together, or a place that makes you think of them. Focus on finding a beautiful and appropriate final resting place.
 
A meaningful place
The most important thing to remember about picking a special place to spread ashes is to pick a place that has meaning. Choosing a place that has meaning is what makes the place special to you and to others Choosing a special place to spread ashes is sometimes a difficult decision. However, as long as you pick a place with meaning to the deceased person or their loved ones, then it is special. The perfect spot honors the deceased and their life, while also giving you a place to visit and remember your time with them.